Tuesday, December 20, 2011

A Marriage Registry

Today is my three year wedding anniversary.  Looking back on the past few years, I am so thankful for a strong, peaceful, and enjoyable marriage.  Many couples plan extensively for their wedding day, but fail to plan for their marriage.  So today on Well Registered we're proposing a "Marriage Registry" to complement your wedding registry.  You won't regret investing the time and money into preparing for your marriage.

1 - Premarital Counseling

Number 1 on the list of things you can do to prepare for marriage is to go through premarital counseling.   You can find different programs through local clinics, community organizations, or your church or place of worship.  Make sure whatever course you choose includes discussing role expectations, money, religion, sex, in-laws, and children.

2 - Financial Planning 

One of the top causes of divorce in America is financial problems.  Money problems cause tension in marriages and tension can cause all sorts of other strains on your relationship.  While financial planning will most likely be covered shortly in any premarital counseling you go through, we recommend getting your financial situation - and goals - sorted out either before your wedding day or quickly after. 

There are many different options for financial planning available, but we highly recommend Dave Ramsey's program.  As an engaged couple you could attend Financial Peace University together or go through Dave Ramsey's book, Total Money Makeover

3 - Read!

One of the best things you can do to prepare for marriage is to read books on the subject.  The books you will enjoy will vary depending on your beliefs and values, but just for an idea here are the books we've found useful.

"Love and Respect" by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs - Available at Amazon

"Before You Say I Do" by H. Norman Wright & Wes Roberts - Available at Amazon

 "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman - Available at Amazon

How are you planning on preparing for marriage?